This is best summed up by a very close friend of mine who had been in a relationship with a man who was very controlling mentally towards her. He lost no opportunity in belittling her or verbally chastising her. He criticised her weight and her physical appearance, and constantly pointed out her faults as perceived by him, and only him. After almost 11 years of this behaviour and following a lot of emotional turmoil and soul searching, she found the strength to leave him. It didn’t take long for him to realise how much she had loved and supported him and that he missed and needed her in his life again. However, she met someone else who showed he loved her not just by saying so, but by supporting her, praising her appearance, appreciating everything she did for him, and by doing whatever he could to make her happy. She is beginning to blossom again into the person she has a right to be while her former partner is left regretting, too late, the loss of the best thing ever to happen to him.