Isn't it a pity that we can’t actually know what is going on with somebody unless they choose to tell us? We can only go by what they allow us see which may either be a brave face or a “don’t care” attitude. This is what we respond to don’t we? We accept. However, what if we just "feel or know" they're struggling? We could do what we can to delve deeper into what's actually going on with them and offer a sympathetic ear, a shoulder to cry on, whatever helps them feel they're not struggling alone. We've all been in their shoes at one time or another in our lives so we know exactly how they feel and what helps and what doesn't. Who knows, we may need them to do the same for us somewhere down the road?